For those in a relationship, it is always important to consider how you have evolved as a couple from your first dates to today. It is important to take some time to see if the bond you share with your significant other has what it takes to go the distance.
Professionals have spent years studying and identifying the positive traits within the first 6 months of relationships and have come up with several key insights that we’d like to share with you.
Please understand that even if your relationship does not meet the signs listed below, that does not necessarily mean that you should quit or lose faith in it.
Consider these 10 positive signs as a guide to assessing whether your new relationship is on the right path or if you should start adjusting the sails.
You often think of your partner when you are not together
There are some characteristics in relationships that are linked to a stronger feeling of love. One that is especially interesting is that the more a person thinks about their partner when they are not together, the more they love each other. Are you daydreaming of your partner all day?
You are intimate
If you’re in a healthy relationship, you feel connected—in and out of bed.
Talking openly with your partner about what you want and need greatly improves your intimacy and your orgasm. Whether it's talking about a lack of sex lately or your desire to try some toys; being sexually satisfied will make the relationship stronger.
Studies show that happy couples enjoy all kinds of sexual intimacy on a regular basis as long as they aligned on the frequency (whether it's twice a day or once a year).
You divide chores evenly
In a survey, 62% of adults responded that sharing tasks is a very important part of a successful relationship. Each taking even responsibility creates balance and harmony at home. Interestingly, despite social stereotypes, there was no difference between men and women when it came to this answer.
However, although men do more housework than before, a study has shown that women still do most of them.
You enjoy trying new things together
You are always challenging each other to explore new TV shows, foods and adventures. Couples benefit from the shared discomfort and learning that comes with anything new. New things are not enough to save a relationship in crisis. However, for couples who have a reasonably good but boring relationship, new experiences can rekindle the flame.
Your are genuinely thrilled when your partner succeeds
A great test to see how happy a relationship really is, is to measure how enthusiastic each partner's response is to the good news of the other.
“Couples with longevity always remember that they’re on the same team. One partner’s success shouldn’t be threatening or jealousy-inducing. It’s a win for the both of you and should be celebrated as such.”
The right person believes, without thinking, that a portion of their happiness comes from seeing their partner succeed.
You spend time apart, each with their own friends
While spending time together is also essential for the couple to be healthy, it is necessary to maintain the individuality of each. Spending time alone or with people outside of the relationship is important for your individual and relationship well-being.
Having hobbies separately allows the world not to be limited to a single relationship. In fact, sharing each other’s solo experiences is an enriching trait that helps strengthen the relationship.
Your relationship is supportive and balanced
Making your partner feel supported and valued is vital. Communication will do the trick.
However, this should be understood as expressing your doubts, fears, thoughts, beliefs and deepest emotions. Communicating how you feel or what you think helps your partner be actively part of your life, while making them feel valued and trusted. Likewise, your relationship can help you adopt different points of view or further develop in a certain way. Overcoming problems together or simply enriching your life while helping you to better understand each other.
You fight, but you know how to get past an argument
All healthy relationships involve fights. If not, it would mean one of you is holding back. However, you don’t need to live in conflict or avoid it completely, but you need to learn how to fight productively and fairly, i.e. avoiding name-calling or put-downs. It also means striving to understand your partner instead of trying to score points. And when you’re wrong? You say sorry.
Healthy relationships communicate how they feel and think. They also include listening.
I listen to you, and we fix things. We don't let the problem go by, we don't let the other person suffer. We talk about it and we solve it.
Your partner forgives and also forgets your occasional bad mood
We all have bad days at work, with our family, or in life. And if your partner scolds you after one of these days, things can go down the drain. Literally.
Even though we all have bad moods, the last thing we want to happen is to go home and have to be civil with our partners, we must at least be respectful. This also means that if our partner is down, we must be kind and not ask for more than they can give us at the moment.
You understand the relationship between money and time
According to a study published in 2013, if one partner commutes longer then 45 minutes, a couple is 40 percent more likely to get divorced. So, please keep in mind that greater pay often doesn't mean greater happiness.
It can be hard to know where your relationship is headed. Sometimes it helps to check in with yourself and see what the positive signs are before you take the next steps. If you are interested in love compatibility and believe in the energy that surrounds us, give it a try and contact one of our talented advisors to help better understand your new relationship and make it last for a lifetime!