Are you still swiping or are you already in love? True love in the age of online dating can seem impossible. Today, we mostly look for love online - after all, the Internet is the supreme matchmaker. Although dating apps like Bumble, Tinder and others have revolutionized dating behavior, it has become even more difficult to find a partner for life. The reason: infinite choices and less desire for commitment.
At parties, through friends, at work - in the past, couples met "out there" in real life. Today, dating has almost become a competitive sport: hours of browsing through profiles, writing messages, arranging meetings, etc. If you want to get to know a potential partner today, you have to spend quite a lot of time and energy on it.
It can be stressful. What's more, the selection is so large that it's becoming increasingly difficult to settle on one person. After all, the next date or the next potential Mr. Right, is just a few taps away.
Is there real love online?
But can navigating this hectic date hopping really produce true love? Love is so much more than just a quick rush. After all, love means committing to someone for the long term, surrendering completely to their feelings and sharing a common path.
This includes tolerating the other person's faults and making compromises that sometimes start beyond your own comfort zone. But no one seems to have the patience for that amount of commitment these days.
Can it be possible to actually invest in someone after a very short getting-to-know-you phase? A quick date for drinks is not enough for to decide. The consequences of frequent dating are predictable: Disappointment, frustration and even dating burnout.
Dating break, please!
Online dating can become a real obsession. Are you in a spiral and dating a lot, but no one is really sticking? Then take a break and put your phone away. Take care of your life away from all the dating apps.
Going on dates with friends and family instead will help you get your mind off things. Maybe there are new goals at work that you've wanted to pursue for a long time, but haven't had time for yet. Or a new hobby that excites you and gives you new exciting impulses.
You will see: After a break from the dating marathon, you'll go into the next date much more relaxed and content with yourself. And who knows, maybe you'll even meet someone by chance in the old-fashioned, analog way! For example, in a bar during a big game night, or for the very brave: by flirting and talking to someone in the middle of the street! After all, isn't it true that life always surprises you with a new love when you least expect it?
Love takes time, give it to yourself first!
- Be realistic
True love or a quick fling? Do you really know what you are looking for in a partner? If you look specifically, you'll have the most fun and success.
- Get out
Get off the grid and out into the fresh air instead of spending every free minute swiping through dating apps.
- Listen to your gut
Weird responses, strange photos, stalker-ish attitudes, or you feel like you're at the back of the queue? Not worth it!